Football vs Christmas

Yes, its true. I chose football. The Ravens/Steelers game at that. The day that decided who won the AFC North and who was playoff bound. The game that just happened to be on Christmas Day.

My family hasn’t been close this past year so I made the decision for forgo Christmas dinner with them and go to the game with my best friend instead. I switched the days with Sam so I had Joshua from noon on Christmas eve till noon on Christmas since it was a 430 game, 3 1/2 hours from me. He had no problem with the switch so I went for it. Apparently this was the selfish choice to make because Joshua and I should’ve been with family for Christmas. Selfish? Joshua was still with family, his father to be exact. and I was with someone who actually takes the time to check on me, that’s cares about me and makes me a part of her life.

My only regret in the situation was not having Joshua all day and getting to spend his entire Christmas with him. but im glad he was with family and not just a babysitter or something. And we made breakfast together and opened tons of presents. and I even saved some for the following day when he came home =)

I could tell my grandparents were disappointed and upset that I wasn’t going to be there for dinner but the only one who spoke on it was my father. Who waited till I was over 2 hours out of town to send me a text about how nothing should be more important then family and he cant believe he wont see me or Joshua on his birthday and Christmas. Um, im sorry… but im not going to make someone a priority that has been completely absent from my life this entire year. and worse then that, from joshuas life this whole year. Father or not, he made his choices to pretend like his child and grandchild didn’t exist for almost 9 months, so I don’t care to hear how upset he is that im not there on Christmas. He had all damn year.

So anyway, we went to the game. We had a blast, even though my Ravens lost and I was 1 of 3 ravens fans in our entire section. Regardless, we had the time of our lives, met some awesome people and had some real heart to heart conversations on the way back which just made us even closer. My child had the best day ever, I had the best day ever and my best friend had the best day ever.. so as far as im concerned.. Christmas 2016 was the one for the books =)


Day 6

List 5 ways to win your heart.

1st. I don’t like this one.. I don’t need to give people the ideas of how to be fake to draw me in.. eventually the real  you will always show and you would’ve wasted your and my time.. im not about that life.. but for the sake of this writing challenge…

  1. Understand that before I am a  girlfriend or friend, I am a mother. If I have to cancel plans or reschedule something because of anything related to my child and you give me grief about it, the chances of seeing me again are slim. If you are understanding and respectful I will feel the relief I need. He is my forever, you aren’t a guarantee.
  2. Don’t have the expectations of changing me. Lets be honest, I don’t change for anyone. Im hard headed and stubborn and you wont be able to change that. So if you can love me for who I am, exactly the way I am, ill love you 10x harder.
  3. Show an interest in the parts of my life that don’t involve you. Ask about my day at work, how my kid is, how my friends are doing if ive talked about them.. these are all important aspects of my life and to show in interest in something that isn’t just our relationship shows me you could be around for the long run.
  4. Don’t make it about sex. Let me clarify this.. obviously sex is important in any relationship and a physical connection needs to be a strong one. However, for me to become fully involved with someone I need to know we can just be together, without being together. If we cant make it through a movie without your hands down my pants or if we cant cuddle without you immediately making the moves towards sex, then I wont see a long term thing going with you. Life gets complicated and things happen. I need to know that the person im with, can just spend time with me and still be just as happy.
  5. Be openminded. I hate to argue and to have to prove a point.  Its just not what im into. This means that I need someone who is open minded. I can have a different view than you, a different opinion, different morals and beliefs. Don’t try to “prove your right”, I don’t care. Im 28 years old and have made my choices for reasons. You wont change my views. So respect mine, ill respect yours and we will live happily.

the madhouse

I created this blog as a place for me to relax my mind, speak my mind and just keep an openmind on the every day crazy events of my life. I don’t really expect anyone to read this.. although, I was surprised at how many people have started reading my health and fitness blog.

life is crazy. my life is a pending divorce, with a man who I now get a long with better than ever before, a 4 year old boy, a family who doesn’t accept my  life, a job I love but is so stressful.

my life is just like anyone elses. full of twist and turns. laughter and tears. but what makes it different, is that this.. unlike anyone else is the world, this is my story =)